How to Move on After a Divorce
If you ever thought that breakups were hard, now that you’ve been through a divorce, you might have an entirely new perspective. Divorces are terrible, even when they don’t get messy, because it’s the end of a once happy union and a bond that you shared with another human being. And when there are kids involved, a divorce can cause irreversible damage. If you’re finding yourself having trouble moving on after a divorce, you’re certainly not alone.
Moving on after a divorce might seem impossible. We get that.
This article brings words of encouragement to help you move on after a divorce…
Give yourself grace and time to heal
Whatever you do, don’t try to brush your feelings aside and pretend that you’re perfectly fine. Even the strongest women out there are crushed after a divorce—and that’s because divorces are devastating! You may always love them no matter what…or you may still be in love with your ex. And both are perfectly okay following your divorce. Time is always the best medicine, and you can’t force yourself to get over it like it was nothing. It was something. And it was major, and it was life-shattering. But you are strong, and you will be okay in due time.
Try to let go of the bitterness
If infidelity and/or abuse was a key component towards your divorce, this might be easier said than done. But if you have children that you share with your ex, you’ll need to work at it to let yourself not remain bitter once the smoke has cleared and the divorce is finalized. It’s okay to be angry, bitter, mad, furious, and hurt. But what is not okay is to take your past with you and let it ruin your future. For the sake of your mental health and your children, work diligently to let go of the bitterness.
Get away, if you can
If you can afford it and have childcare options, take yourself on a serious vacation. Use this as a means to get out of your element and clear your mind. You can think more clearly when you’re not sitting in the home the two of you shared or being hit with daily reminders of the life you shared with your ex. You deserve a break from reality so that when you come back to reality, you’ll feel realigned with yourself and what you want in the next chapter of your life.
Stay positive and celebrate your little victories
Each day is a gift, that’s why they call it the present. So use those daily gifts to remind yourself of the good that’s still all around you in your life. Sure, your relationship didn’t pan out the way you thought it would, but you are resilient and you need to remember just how strong you are. This is especially true if there are children in the picture. Children want to see their mothers happy and if you take each day one step at a time you can be. Be grateful for all the good, and celebrate the little victories along the way—no matter how small.
Join a safe community of friendships and support
This is vitally important, especially if you have children. The road ahead won’t be easy but supportive, life giving relationships are key to stabilizing during this difficult time. Communities like singlemomspot.com will provide inspiration, encouragement and community for the journey ahead.
Do you have any advice of your own to share on how you moved on after divorce?
We’d love to hear your tips, please leave us a comment and let us know how you healed after your divorce.
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