How to Stay Positive as a Single Mom-5 Best Practices

Tips for Staying Positive as a Single Mom—Basic Practices that EVERY mom can adopt

It goes without saying that staying positive isn’t always easy. We all have our struggles, and for single moms, those struggles are often very real and all too consuming. Sure, we can find ways to unwind, but coping can make things worse sometimes. The best thing that we can do for the sake of ourselves and for our littles is to stay positive. If you’re finding that staying positive as a single mom is difficult, allow these healthy doses inspiration prepared by Single Mom Spot™ to inspire you today.

Not Alone

You are not alone in your journey as a single mom. For myself personally, staying positive has been a struggle when times get tough. From managing financial pressures and parenting challenges to work and co-parenting issues, your day-to-day life as a single mom can feel up and down and out of control.

When the going gets tough, it is vitally important to remember that you are not alone. Seek out communities that provide the loving support that you need so that you can connect with women that are single mothers like you. Single Mom Spot™ was created especially for this purpose. To bring mamas together on their journey so that they can live their best lives as women and mothers TODAY. Our goal is provide real inspiration, resources and HELP for real single moms.

Here’s our top five tips to help you stay positive as a single mom….

Eliminate the negative when you can

If you have toxic people in your life that you’re related to, this tip for staying positive as a single mom might be easier said than done. But you can start simple by eliminating negative thoughts from your mind when you feel them start to creep in. Of course there will days when you feel mighty, but there will also be times when you may feel as if the world is crumbling all around you. And hey, that’s okay!

What you need to do is stay strong and always make a conscious effort to focus on the positive—and encourage your children to do the same, too. They often say that we are the company that we keep, so eliminating negative thoughts, energy, and people is a helpful way to cultivate positivity in your own life.

Practice gratitude always

Of course if you went through a messy divorce or breakup or you’re struggling to provide for your kids on a fixed one-person income, it can be hard to be grateful. But when you start counting your blessings and practicing gratitude for all of the good in your life, you will be amazed at just how quickly your perspective on life will transform. Remember, each day is a gift, that’s why they call it the present!

Check out this article written by our Single Mom Spot™ founder, How to be Thankful When the Odds Are Against You.

Take time for yourself

This can be tricky if you don’t have any help with your kids, but it’s vital for your mental health and well-being that you make a conscious effort to give yourself grace and time to unwind and clear your mind. It’s easy to get stuck in the negative when you’re constantly burned out and running on fumes (speaking from experience here!) But, life will still be there waiting for you, I promise. Self-care is a vital practice that will help you keep a positive outlook.

You need to relax and take it easy when your body signals to you that it desperately needs you to hit the reset button. Our kids want to see us happy, and spending time with them when we’re not thinking about what we need be doing is key. Your kids need you, and vice versa. Take time to stop and smell the roses, and remember that life is a marathon, not a sprint.

Let go of guilt

No matter what your life situation may be, ending up as single mom is likely what you didn’t expect to happen. It’s hard to let go of a vision that we created in our minds for ourselves, the person we love, and the children we share with them. But sometimes love is not enough to save a relationship. And, as we know, sometimes calling it quits is for the best—and this goes for the sake of the children, too.

Your kids want to see their parents happy, and sometimes that means that breaking up is for the best. Sure, drop offs are hard coming home to an empty home, being reminded of toys and other things of theirs filling the home in their absence. But it’s important that you rid yourself of any guilt about being a single mom. This is just the way that life worked out, so stay positive and focus on the better days ahead where you can show your children you’re strong, courageous, and proud to be their mother—no matter what the situation may be.

If you’re a working single mom that wants to learn how to stop struggling with mom guilt, check out this video interview with Single Mom Spot founder and Jameese McBeth.

Create a routine that works for you—and stick to it

Routines might make a person crazy if they’re much more of a go-with-the-flow type, but routines are a great way to stay on task and remain positive. It also provides us with a sense of accomplishment once we navigate those routines and everything falls into a nice flow. Routines are great for teaching children about structure and balance, and it can be a fun way for you and your kids to stay positive and accountable together.

To help build routines for both yourself and your children, check out this article on How to Get Your Kids to Help with Chores.

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My name is Jenna and I am the founder of Single Mom Spot. I've been a single mom for almost 10 years now. I'm a Christian and mama to two kids that I love like crazy. I started this site because I know how difficult single motherhood can be...and also, how beautiful. I believe that single motherhood helped make me into the best version of myself as a woman and mom. My hope, is that through a connection point like Single Mom Spot, women can share their experiences and grow together. What an amazing thing if every single mom could live her best life as a woman and mother right now, in the middle of her most challenging life circumstance. How bold. How beautiful. How unforgettable. Thank you for reading and supporting Single Mom Spot.